Evolving.
Published on October 30, 2005 By Angloesque In Personal Relationships
Preface: I am married, happily so.

Story No. 1: Recently, whilst walking down a hallway at work, my thoughts on the possibility that I wouldn't have to wait for someone else to evacuate the washroom, I happened to pass a very attractive man. He works in another part of the building so I barely knew he existed. Anyway. So I'm walking, I see him, and bam! it's a crush.* Just walking, minding my business, and then crush.

Story No. 2 (and even more pathetic): H showed me something on his friend N's blog that was funny. So funny, in fact, that I continued to read N's blog long afterward. Bam! Crush on a guy I don't know, whom I've neither met nor seen, and who is (for all intents and purposes) a friend of my husband's.

Aside: I don't go looking for these things. I don't wake up saying, "Hmm, I'm unsatisfied with my husband. Maybe so-and-so can fill this void." Nope. Usually all that happens is a funny feeling in my abdomen and a sinking sensation in my brain, an increased pulse rate, and the thoughts of "Oh, crap, not again."

Supposition: Crushes must have some kind of evolutionary basis; e.g., when a certain number of (pardon my cranial phonetic ignorance) brain cells are misaligned—because obviously there's no logic in crushes—they create this psycosocial construct, an evolutionary construct designed so that the species prospers and multiplies, &c.

Ah, but the last laugh will be mine: I have no desire to reproduce. Mate? Perhaps, but not produce little humanoids. Take that, nature!



*Bonus points to anyone who can come up with a better, less juvenile word for "crush."

Comments
on Oct 30, 2005
Bonus points to anyone who can come up with a better, less juvenile word for "crush."


Infatuation
on Oct 30, 2005
+2 informative.

-A.
on Oct 30, 2005
I do the same thing. Most of my crushes are hollywood type fantasies. I think its more dangerous when its someone you can actually talk to. I don't think I'm in danger of Hugh Jackman showing up at my door and whisking me away but my little flirtation with Ron at the gym there's more potential there. I think there's no harm as long as you don't pursue a relationship just fun to have butterflies when you see someone who you find attractive. Not to mention that when you get to know them as real people its not nearly as much fun as the fantasy.
on Oct 30, 2005
you could also go with "yen" but I think infatuation is the ding-ding here.
on Oct 31, 2005
Not to mention that when you get to know them as real people its not nearly as much fun as the fantasy.


Yeah, and then you're all let down and disappointed.

you could also go with "yen" but I think infatuation is the ding-ding here.


+2 insightful.

-A.
on Oct 31, 2005
Hey, these things happen! It doesnt' mean you don't love your husband, it just means you're alert and alive and you're human!LOL!

Infatuation is a pretty good replacement to use! Yen is good too, but infatuation much better! Yearning might be too strong of a word, attraction is a better replacement for yearning!
on Nov 01, 2005
Or sometimes even a simple (strong) attraction.

It's funny that I can differentiate feelings so strongly between crush, attraction, "liking," infatuation, "loving," "wanting," really caring about, etc. etc., but then again, I'm still young.
(not to imply anything)
on Jan 10, 2006
A,

Missing your contribution around here(and too lazy to blog about it), so I thought I would drop you a line at your place.
on Mar 05, 2006
Before I was married I had a crush on a girl they called the Ice Maiden. The office guys called my efforts "crushed ice". I called her my "Slush Puppy"; She called me an"Arctic waste!"
I had hoped that she would "melt" into my arms but she "froze" at the very thought.

On a fictionary note a crush is a flush of blood to the heart.
on Mar 05, 2006
Missing your contribution around here(and too lazy to blog about it),


Me too. Where are you?

Come back. Please.
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